Thoughts Of A Man On Cheating Men

‘Baby, you know I love you right?’ what he actually means is ‘I have done something and you might find out about it’ that in a nutshell is a mere example of men in this day and age.

When you find out you’re cheated on, about to be cheated on, your whole life just spiral down to your inner child, you become vulnerable, feel worthless, ask yourself many questions with no answers. It’s been said that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, a cliche right?! True, but how many people have you crossed paths with and have gone through major breakups? Exactly, they didn’t let themselves be defined by where they came from, instead they bettered themselves into making their exes label them ‘That one I ones loved’

I watched ‘Think Like A Man’ it was an eye-opener to witness what measures men do take in order to make their way into the ‘cookie jar’ and how the highly intellectual women of our age become complete morons all in the name of LOVE! But this is a story for another day.

When we’re hurt in a relationship of any kind we tend to make statements that generalise an entire community. “All men are liars” a gay victim of infidelity might say. “All women are cheaters” a straight man might add. “All gay men are home wreckers” a straight female might say in response to her DL boyfriend.

It’s extremely difficult to isolate each incident of infidelity. It takes time, sometimes years, to recover from a relationship in which trust is broken. But when it comes down to it, each individual should be held accountable for his or her actions.

Let me point out the obvious, I think the operative question is why do ‘people’ cheat? I know many straight people would love to know why their partner has cheated. Cheating is sadly a universal trait that is not specific to sexual orientation.

Of course, I have no intentions of trying to lessen the pain of infidelity, but it’s important, as I have stated, not to make assumptions that all or even most men are cheaters or liars. This can lead down a spiraling bitter and jaded path that can block you from finding or even giving an actual faithful man a chance.

A friend of mine sees the reality and the possibilities of the situation, “Honey, for every bad person or cheater in this world there are good people out there. You may feel cheated on and lied to but stay focus and redefine those things about yourself that make you happy. Love thy self. Some people (cheaters) never change while others change. Listen to your gut feeling. There is so much more to life. I have been there and I am a witness.”

Whether you choose to stay or go, it is all upto you. Just remember to put yourself first, love is a two way street, rolling over and playing dead for someone who’s on the receiving end is a complete NO!!!

One key which was lost by many is called COMMUNICATION, how it opens many doors, you’d swear it’s the master-key, followed by TRUST then HONESTY. Those are my personal ingredients to a better, healthier and successful relationship, if all else fails, don’t give up, keep waiting for love, let if find you and when it does, love the next like you were never heartbroken before. You’re heartbroken NOT broken.

I’d often tell my friends “You do not need a man to make you feel good about yourself, happiness resides in you to the outside” and now I’m sharing this with you.

– Touch Of Suave


3 Responses to “Thoughts Of A Man On Cheating Men”

  1. kgadishi Says:

    Truth be told and shared, I have just realized this thought of yours few months ago. I used to put others first than myself. But I couldn’t figure it out before. I’m glad you have put that thought to pen to share with us.

  2. Thank you guys…

    @ Kgadishi, it”s amazing what measures people would go through just to feed their selfish needs.

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